Author: James Graham, C.Ht.

When things aren’t going your way, it’s hard to accept your own role in the situation. Often, it’s much easier to look externally – at other people, at the circumstances, or at just plain bad luck. However, while all of these things can be factors, failing to take personal responsibility can block you from becoming your best self.

Making excuses provides short term comfort, but it holds you back from growing and improving, and from avoiding similar mistakes in the future. But how do you know if you’re failing to take personal responsibility, and what can you do about it?

If you’re ready to empower yourself by taking responsibility and leaving excuses behind, this article is a perfect place to start. We’ll explore the key signs that you have difficulty accepting personal responsibility, explain the benefits of changing your approach, and provide concrete tips and reminders that can help you stay on track.

Ready To Start Accepting Responsibility?

Perhaps someone has pointed out that you have a habit of making excuses, or maybe you’re feeling stuck and are ready to try anything that might change your mindset and behavior.

However, if taking personal responsibility has been difficult for you in the past, know that this is perfectly understandable.

It can seem scary and negative to think about how we contribute to our own difficulties, and if you already suffer from low self-esteem then it makes sense that you’d want to protect yourself.

Thankfully, taking personal responsibility doesn’t have to be frightening or heavily self-critical. Instead, it can mark an empowering new phase of your life in which you take control of who you want to be and how you want to spend your time.

To see why and how, let’s delve further into the difference between taking and avoiding responsibility.

Signs You Might Be Avoiding Personal Responsibility

So, how do you know that you need to work on accepting responsibility? We’ve already gestured toward the kind of excuse-making mentality you might be tempted to adopt, but we’ll now consider the profile of a responsibility-avoider in more depth. Do any of the following signs sound familiar? If so, read on to see how you can start making changes.

Victim Mentality

If you have a victim mentality, this means that you view yourself as powerless. You’re someone who constantly asks questions like, why do bad things happen? Or why do I always seem to get treated badly at some point?

While it’s natural to feel bad when things go wrong, a victim mentality involves indulging in self-pity and feeling sorry for yourself at the exclusion of considering productive lessons you can draw from your current situation.

In contrast, when you stop feeling sorry for yourself then you’re able to focus on fostering a positive mentality that pushes you toward change and away from stagnation.

If you want to leave the victim mentality behind, start asking yourself “What can I do to make things better?”

This encourages you to see what your power is and how you might be contributing to the problem. Secondly, try emptying your negative thoughts and feelings of self-pity into a journal and then leaving them behind.

Blaming Others

Of course, others will sometimes play a role in negative situations in your life – sometimes by accident, and occasionally on purpose.

However, it’s important not to assume that others are entirely to blame for everything that goes wrong. Blame shifting keeps you trapped in the same cycle, making the same mistakes and avoiding the same responsibilities.

If you want to learn how to stop blaming others, it’s helpful to dig into the psychological reasons for blaming others.

In particular, as noted in the introduction of this article, we often do this sort of thing because we find it hard to accept our own flaws.

Work on embracing your flaws – you don’t have to be perfect to be good enough, and everyone makes mistakes! In addition, develop a practice of questioning your blaming practice. When you say “It’s all ____’s fault!”, take this as a prompt to stop and ask, “But what role did I play?’.

Making Excuses

Making excuses sometimes takes the form of blaming others, but there are further ways to avoid personal responsibility by making excuses.

In particular, you might start to take responsibility and then veer away into explaining to yourself that the situation wasn’t really under your control. For example, suppose you make a mistake on a work assignment.

You might acknowledge that this isn’t your boss’s fault, or the fault of any of your coworkers. However, you might say things like “Well, I was late to work that day because of bad traffic, and the wording of the assignment was quite complicated, so I couldn’t really have done anything differently.”

So, how to stop making excuses. It takes time and effort to stop making excuses, but the key is challenging your thinking.

Every time something goes wrong, ask yourself to find at least one thing you could do differently next time to help get a better result.

Complaining

Complaining takes up a lot of energy, but it’s an easy habit to fall into if you find it tough to take personal responsibility. In some ways, complaining is just a way of externally expressing some of the above signs – blaming others, viewing yourself as a victim, and making excuses.

You might do it in your journal or do it out loud to friends, but either way, it completely distracts you from any role you might have played in your own discontent.

One thing that can help you to stop complaining is to set a time limit.

Try to get it all out within five minutes, for example, viewing it as a cathartic kind of purge. Then, move on to being productive and proactive.

A second strategy that can be useful is to make yourself accountable. Tell your close friends that you’re working on complaining less, and let them remind you if you’re overdoing it as an accountability partner.

How Accepting Responsibility Can Change Your Life

Armed with a clear idea of what it means to have a habit of avoiding responsibility, let’s move on to think about why this all matters so much. As it turns out, accepting personal responsibility can completely transform your life. This should give you the inspiration that you need to start shifting your habits and holding yourself accountable.

Achieve Your Life Goals

Firstly, no matter what your life goals may be, taking personal responsibility goes a long way toward helping you meet those goals. Ask yourself: what’s your purpose, or your direction in life? What are the values and aims that undergird all the choices you make? Setting life goals has a huge amount to do with being disciplined in your actions.

In other words, by mindfully approaching each day with a plan for what you want to do, the habits you want to cultivate, and the place you want to direct your energy.

When you don’t take responsibility, you block yourself from your life goals by surrendering control. You say that whether you get to where you want to go is more about other people and about luck.

In contrast, when taking personal responsibility you see that all of this is fundamentally up to you – this opens up a whole new perspective on what you can achieve.

Increase Self-Awareness

When you accept and see that you have responsibility for yourself, your actions and your own life, you start to become self-aware.

What is self-awareness? This is when you learn to develop an ever-richer picture of who you and what you want, and doing so has knock-on effects on all sorts of other areas of your life.

Why is self-awareness important? Because it means understanding the reality of your own strengths and weaknesses and how to use all of those to your advantage. The benefits of self-awareness also include more mature relationships with better communication.

Your potential is closed off if you can’t accept that you could be contributing to the negatives in your life.
Deep down, you have a sense that there are things you could be working on.
However, you won’t allow yourself to look at those things or to do that work.

There’s a wonderful feedback link between self-awareness and taking responsibility for yourself – each of these traits continuously enhances the other. Consequently, you become increasingly empowered and increasingly knowledgeable.

Increase Happiness

At first, you might not see why taking more responsibility for yourself increases your happiness. For example, isn’t it uncomfortable and unpleasant to think about your weaknesses and the ways you could do better? Won’t that make you sadder rather than happier?

The answer is that it doesn’t have to – not if you take the attitude that we all have room for improvements and that making mistakes doesn’t undermine your value.

In addition, there’s something truly liberating about taking responsibility for your own happiness. In particular, you realize that to a large extent, when considering how to be happier, it’s already in your control.

It’s not up to your partner, your friends or your family to make you happy, and you can choose to be happier than you are.

So, instead of viewing yourself as being at the whims of fate every day, you can wake up and ask yourself “How do I want to feel today? And what can I do to make that happen?”.

Take Control Of Your Life

The sense of control discussed above with respect to happiness also extends beyond your emotions. Consider that when you take responsibility, you can take control of your life in all respects. As you begin to view yourself as being personally responsible for the life you live, you start to realize that you can decide what you want to pursue, and when you want to pursue it.

In a nutshell, a shift in mindset doesn’t happen to you but rather happen through you. It’s considered ‘growth mindset vs fixed mindset‘. You’re in command of what your future looks like, in every area – your dating, career, fitness and your family life.
In contrast, the old mentality involved thinking that others control your life, limiting your choices and keeping you stuck. When it finally dawns on you that this isn’t true, the relief can be truly incredible.

Become Self Accountable

Finally, a huge element of taking responsibility for yourself is a willingness to answer for what you do – to consider what happens as a result of your behaviors and choices, and to honestly evaluate those outcomes.

As suggested above, this adds up to doing something different in the future when things don’t work out. Consequently, the gap between you and your goals gets shorter and shorter at a faster rate.

As with many aspects of taking responsibility, self-accountability can sound like a heavyweight to carry at first. It can sound as though you’ll live a life of self-recrimination and self-doubt.

However, once you start to practice it, you’ll see that it frees you up to abandon the things that don’t work for you and to lean into the best parts of yourself.

What’s more, it makes your social life much better. Instead of blaming others, you apologize when appropriate and little things never get a chance to become chronic grudges.

6 Important Reminders For Taking Personal Responsibility

To take personal responsibility, the biggest step you have to take is deciding that you want to stop making excuses.
However, it’s helpful to have techniques on hand to keep you on track.
Having reminders you can refer to when it becomes hard to avoid the urge to blame others is especially good. These reminders will help to stick to your plan and stay consistently accountable to yourself.

Stop Blaming Others

When you catch yourself focusing all your resentment and anger on another person, stop and take a few deep breaths. Pull back from your urge to blame, and focus on yourself. How did you get here? What happened? If you could do the situation over, what would you change?

Stop The Constant Complaining

When you hear consistent moaning coming out of your mouth to friends, family or colleagues, catch yourself and change direction. It’s okay to say something like “I just realized I’m moaning about this – let me change track.” Ask yourself: what’s the positive in this situation, if there is any? If not, how can I move forward?

Be Mindful & Live In The Present Moment

Add a personal reflection period to every day to stop you from analyzing the past and stressing about the future. Whether it’s a guided meditation, mindfulness exercises, or just a walk, find time to zone into the present moment.

Get Clear & Set Intentions

Set your goals in clear, unambiguous language. Write them down (write an intention statement) and pin them up somewhere if it helps, and stick to them. Focus on these intentions throughout the day, and let your guiding question not be “Why me?” but “What can I do in order to turn my intentions into reality?”.

See Challenges Instead Of Problems

We all hit roadblocks, but when you do it’s important to view them as beatable challenges. How can you overcome them? What strategies can you use? These are not signs you’ll be permanently stuck or that you’re powerless. They’re not problems but rather prompts to grow beyond your present self.

Be Responsible For Yourself

Finally, don’t look to your partner, your friends, your children or anyone else to make sure you’re happy. Your happiness is up to you, which is both a great gift and a great responsibility. If you want to feel a certain way, explore how you can get there – don’t ask others to take you there.

Using The Law Of Attraction Effectively Is Your Personal Responsibility To Manifest Your Greatest Life

Now that you fully see why and how taking personal responsibility can change your life, why not take the next step into your empowerment? Whatever your goals and values, you can make these the center of your existence with the help of manifestation techniques. As the Law of Attraction teaches, our intentions and our desires shape what we receive from the universe – so if you’re taking responsibility, you’re deciding what you’ll get from the world around you.

Exercises like saying positive affirmations, doing creative visualizations and creating dream boards support the idea that you create your own future. When you use the Law of Attraction effectively, you get more and more evidence that taking responsibility works! Unlike making excuses, it provides you with a path to being the very best version of yourself.

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The way you think is key to whether you succeed. This includes how you think about yourself, the people around you, the challenges you face and the goals you have. In particular, adopting a growth mindset promotes personal development, helps you take a positive attitude.

Adopting a growth mindset pushes you towards being the most successful person you can be.

Meanwhile, being stuck in a fixed mindset encourages stagnation and prevents you from reaching your full potential.

But what exactly is a “growth mindset”, and how can you develop it?

This article will help you understand the nature of a growth mindset.

A growth mindset gives you concrete steps to take in order to change the way you think. Throughout, we’ll also compare the growth mindset to the type of fixed mindset that might be holding you back.

Finally, we’ll give you a useful list of daily prompts that you can revisit to promote success and responsibility.

Growth Vs Fixed Mindset

The terms “growth mindset” and “fixed mindset” originate from game-changing work from Carol Dweck, a world expert on human motivation.

According to her work, the most basic growth mindset definition tells us that it’s a state in which we believe we can develop over time.

We recognize that our intelligence is a dynamic, fluid aspect of ourselves, and acknowledge our potential to learn.

When it comes to behavior, growth mindset examples include devoting extra time to studying or developing new skills.

Responding to critical feedback by working on what can be changed is also an example of a Growth Mindset.

In contrast, the fixed mindset definition describes a state of mind that is rigid and limiting.

When you’re in a fixed mindset, you think that your intelligence can’t be changed and that your talents are static.

Fixed mindsets are also associated with an assumption that talent is more powerful than effort, and often come with a corresponding belief that others are more talented.

Fixed mindset examples include avoid challenges, seeing effort as a waste of time, and not taking critical feedback into account.

The growth mindset is the one that most readily leads to success, well-being, and happiness.

Why Mindset Matters

At this point, you understand the difference between these two major mindsets and you know that a growth mindset is conducive to personal development.

However, you might still be wondering: what are mindsets, and why are mindsets so key to success in life?

Essentially, your mindset is just the attitudes and beliefs you have about something.

Psychological research has shown that if you want to know how to succeed, working on your mindset (in other words, on changing your attitudes and beliefs) is the most powerful thing you can do.

People who have positive mindsets attract more positivity and devote their energy to making the best of themselves.

Limiting Beliefs Hold You Back

Negative beliefs or limiting beliefs are sorts that are linked to a fixed mindset.

Examples of limiting beliefs include “I can’t do that”, “Everyone else is better than I am”, and “This is all I’m capable of”.

These beliefs keep you trapped in an outdated version of yourself and your abilities.

Often, they trace back to early messages you received in life when significant people gave you a sense that you were not talented, or that you shouldn’t try to reach too high.

In time, limiting beliefs can be overcome – and the more you do so, the closer you are to a growth mindset.

How To Develop A Growth Mindset

Let’s now turn to the question of how to develop a growth mindset.

This is an active, continual process that is partly about learning how to sharpen your mind and partly about learning how to shift your attitude.

Once you have a growth mindset, you’ll be able to form new beliefs – for example, the belief that you can accomplish anything that you set your mind to, and that there’s no limit to how smart, capable and successful you can be.

We’ll work through five techniques that support the growth mindset, explaining how you can tailor them to your specific needs and goals.

Become An Autodidact

The first change you can make to support a growth mindset involves thinking of yourself as an autodidact – essentially, a self-taught person.

There are no limits to what you can teach yourself – empower yourself to further your knowledge on anything and everything that matters to you.

You are in control of what you learn, how much you learn, and when you learn it.

If you’re not sure where to start, make a list of the kind of learning that would support your overall goals.

For example, are there skill sets you don’t have that seem to get people far in your career track?

Make today the day to start learning those skills.

Embrace Your Flaws

As noted above, being in a growth mindset also involves taking a different attitude to critical feedback.

Start by vowing to embrace your mistakes and flaws – they are part of you, and they can be an invaluable guide to self-improvement.

There is an important sense in which your weaknesses are your strengths – they help you understand who you are, where you came from, and what to work on.

Firstly, for every flaw you think you have, challenge yourself to think of one good thing it has given you.

Secondly, try to reframe flaws – for example, “I am impatient” can be reframed as “I want the best results” or “I see people’s full potential and want them to realize it”.

Meanwhile, notice that as well as boosting your growth mindset, learning how to accept your flaws also improves your ability to help and understand others.

Focus On The Process

When you’re working to move from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset, it’s also vital to try and focus on process over product.

In other words, instead of obsessively focusing on what you can get from a growth mindset, try to fully immerse yourself in what’s happening right now.

When you focus on the process, you learn to live in the moment and to experience gratitude.

For example, instead of thinking “I hope all this growth mindset work makes me rich!”, think about what you’re getting from it right now.

Perhaps it helped you take negative feedback on board in a different way today.

Maybe you’ve enjoyed a new class that you signed up for once you started viewing yourself as an autodidact.

Importantly, developing a growth mindset isn’t a process with a fixed end. It’s a lifelong journey that requires consistency creating positive thoughts and learning how to enjoy and appreciate every day with positive thinking.

Sense Of Purpose

Next, although we’ve just encouraged you to focus on process over product, it is nonetheless important to have some sense of purpose.

Ask yourself: what do I want my life to be about?

What is my passion?

If you want to learn how to find your purpose and passion in life, there are a few brainstorming techniques you can try.

For example, make a list of the ten things you value most in life, make a list of the ten things that excite you the most, and look at the lists side by side.

Where do you see meaningful overlaps?

For example, you might notice that your values include compassion and self-reflection.

The list of things that excite you includes helping others with their problems.

From this, a potential purpose in a helpful or caring profession might emerge.

It will feel great when you have discovered you’re true purpose in life.

Keeping A Journal

There are lots of reasons why it is worthwhile to keep a regular journal.

Keeping a journal helps you stay in touch with your thoughts and feelings.

Keeping a journal also assists you in working through leftover discomfort from the day, and also encourages you to stay in the moment.

However, some people feel intimidated by the prospect and aren’t sure where to start, so let’s pause for a moment to consider how to journal.

Importantly, journaling promotes growth even if you don’t have time or space to write a huge amount.

If you can commit to just a few sentences about the significant things that happened in your day, that still counts as exploring your emotions to a degree.

You’ll probably find it more helpful if you can write at least a page, however.

If you can, focus on two key things – what made you feel fulfilled, and what challenges you encountered (as well as thoughts on how to meet them).

High-Performance Mindset

Now that you understand the growth mindset and how to promote it, let’s turn to a related concept – the high-performance mindset.

This version of a growth mindset is closely tied to success, and its foundations are what we call “intentional thoughts”.

Intentional thoughts are beliefs and images of what you want to achieve.

How you talk to yourself and think about yourself matters.

By carefully choosing and curating these aspects of your mental life, you support yourself in reaching your full potential.

Examples of begin in the high-performance mindset include believing that you can excel at anything you put your mind to.

Also having the patience to keep trying until you have the skills you need. Having a genuinely positive attitude towards new difficulties, and sending time every day doing something that helps you perform better.

As you can likely already see, adopting the high-performance mindset is extremely useful when practicing the Law of Attraction.

After all, manifestation requires carefully setting intentions and maintaining and developing a positive attitude.

Manifesting is precisely what the high-performance mindset involves.

This means that techniques aimed at cultivating a high-performance mindset also strengthen your ability to attract the future you desire.

Change Your Mentality

There are lots of exercises you can use to learn how to change your mindset or change your mentality.

Whether you’re looking to make small adjustments to the way you perceive your potential or are on a quest to reinvent yourself.

The Law of Attraction can assist in cultivating a high-performance mindset.

Both the high-performance mindset and using the Law of Attraction together are supported and enhanced by exercises like creative visualization.

You can do a simple intentional thought visualization exercises by simply closing your eyes and spending 10-15 minutes.

This helps Build up a complex, detailed image of the high performance you want to manifest.

Add in not only sights but also smells, sounds, and sensations. Similarly, reciting affirmations like “There are no limits to my potential” help you both create a growth mindset and manifest a successful future.

Try saying these affirmations first thing in the morning, you can also use it when giving a presentation or take part in a professional development seminar.

Part of learning how to change your mindset for success also involves the kinds of techniques discussed above.

One part of learning to change your mindset is reframing negatives and turning them into positives.

Write down five things you think are holding you back from success, and challenge yourself to flip these into positives.

For example, “I am a perfectionist, so I never finish projects”. Turn it into “I like doing the best job possible, I can learn that my best is good enough.”

How to Develop A Positive Mindset With Self-Hypnosis

Finally, hypnosis can play an enormously powerful role in changing your mindset – no matter how you want to change it.

Self-hypnosis is especially apt at helping you to develop a positive attitude, so it’s conducive to a growth mindset and manifesting goals with the Law of Attraction.

Hypnosis just involves guiding you into a highly relaxed, maximally receptive place.

This is where your subconscious mind is no longer protected by the limiting defense mechanisms of your conscious mind.

Once you’re in this state, if you hear suggestions that promote a new positive mindset, you can take them on board and start to incorporate them into your daily thinking.

So, if you want to grow and change, becoming the best version of yourself.

Why not try self-hypnosis to see how it can change your thinking for the better?

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The relationship between gardening and mental health is the topic of much discussion at the moment. According to a recent piece published by The Guardian, GPs are now prescribing gardening as a treatment for depression and anxiety. 

As a society, we are becoming more aware of mental health issues: Mental Health First Aid England has reported that 1 in 4 people experience mental health problems every year. Whether or not you have been diagnosed with a mental illness, we can all benefit from an active approach to improving mental wellbeing. 

This article discusses how nature, gardening, and bringing the outdoors in can instill in us a tranquil mindset and improve our mental health.

Nature and Wellbeing

Nature and wellbeing have been thought to be associated throughout history. A 2016 study published by the University of Derby has confirmed the significance of this association from a scientific point of view. Working with the Wildlife Trusts, the researchers found that participants who engaged with nature each day for 30 days reported sustained increases in health and happiness. 

The paper suggested that we feel happier after prolonged exposure to natural surroundings as a result of a heightened sense of inclusion in nature and belonging to the natural world. Contact with nature has been shown to improve self-esteem in children and help to calm ADHD sufferers, enabling them to concentrate.

Gardening and Mental Health

In light of the recent increase in the diagnosis of mental illnesses, psychologists have also begun to explore the connection between gardening and mental health. For many of us, natural outdoor spaces such as forests and reserves are not regularly accessible. As such, taking up gardening is a brilliant way to increase the time you spend outdoors. 

Combining exercise and contact with nature can improve our mental wellbeing even further. Those fortunate enough to have larger gardens can take a stroll outside and relax in a natural setting. If this isn’t possible, then even taking the time to grow some potted plants on a patio or balcony can help.

It isn’t just the outdoor exercise that makes gardening so beneficial for our mental health. The practice of nurturing plants provides us with a sense of responsibility and connection with nature, whilst helping to increase the release of serotonin and dopamine (happiness hormones) and decrease cortisol levels (a stress hormone).

Creating an outdoor space of your own, planning which plants to place where, and watching it all grow together can be incredibly fulfilling. The task of regularly watering and tending to your plants also develops into a routine, which can help us to stay grounded in its own right. The added benefit of improving your garden’s appearance is an additional stimulus for mental wellbeing. 

Bringing the Outdoors In

As we progress into autumn and the cold sets in, we tend to spend less and less time in the garden. Although the earlier evenings and worsening weather can limit our time outdoors, there are plenty of changes that we can make to our homes to bring the outdoors in.

Some home improvements are simple and cheap to implement. Growing more indoor plants can provide some of the mental health benefits of outdoor gardening, giving us something to look after whilst creating a sense of tranquillity in our homes. In addition to this, plants can improve the look of your home and give you something to feel proud of.

It’s also important to allow these house plants to have access to as much light as possible. Recent research suggests that exposure to natural light promotes a regular sleep cycle and encourages deep sleeping, which has a direct impact on our physical and mental health. Another cost-effective way to increase the light levels in your home is to choose window dressings that let more light in and leave internal doors open so that the light can spread through rooms that might otherwise require artificial lighting.

If you’re in a position to invest in larger changes to your home, then it might be worth making structural alterations that increase your contact with the outdoors. Adding patio doors or a conservatory to your home is an excellent way to allow light to flood in and reduce the barriers to your garden. During the summer months, these home improvements will also stimulate mental wellbeing by encouraging you to do more gardening. 

Relaxing in a light-filled garden room can be a helpful substitute for outdoor gardening time over the colder months. With all that added light, conservatories are also the ideal place to grow house plants and benefit from improvements to our mental wellbeing in this way. Enhancing your home with a conservatory needn’t be too expensive a modification to make either, with the option to choose from new or refurbished fittings.

This article was written by Terry Hill, Managing Director at KLG Rutland. Terry has been working in the home and garden improvement sector for over 10 years and loves helping people to get more from their living space.

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Have you ever wondered why motivational self help programs don’t work for most people?

Yet there are so many self help programs to every personal problem in the world.

• Self Help Books
• Reiki
• Self Hypnosis
• Massage
• Self Help Podcasts
• Yoga
• Guided Mediation
• Access Bars
• Electro Shock (ok, kidding, just kidding, lol)

and many more.

And no matter what solution is available to resolve your situation, every single one of these self help solutions comes back to THE POWER OF YOUR MIND.

Every one of these solutions deals with what’s going on between your ears.

So, if these self help programs work for other people, why don’t they work for you?

There’s only 2 reasons self help programs don’t work:

1. People don’t take action and actually use it
2. People are afraid of change

Let’s deal with reason #1.

A weird thing happens in your mind when you find a solution to a problem. You immediately feel satisfied and there’s a sense of completion.

Let’s take “getting in shape” for instance… Your feeling unhealthy and know you need to lose 10-20 pounds.

So you sign up for gym membership or diet plan, right? But once you pay the money you then feel a sense of accomplishment, right?

And then what happens? 

You don’t take any further action, right? You don’t go to the gym, you don’t follow the food plan and you don’t get results. Am I right so far?

Why?

It’s because you took action to solve your problem. That scratched your subconscious itch to improve yourself. And then your subconscious will make you feel like your work is done, nothing left to do.

Now let’s look at reason #2.

Another weird thing happens when you want to solve a personal issue.

You consciously decide to “CHANGE” something about yourself that is already firmly established as “WHO YOU ARE” subconsciously.

And as a MindPower expert, I can tell you, the subconscious mind does not like “change”. It resists change and will do everything to sabotage changing what has already been the standard way of operating your life.

Let’s go back to our “getting in shape” example.

You’ve bought the gym membership or food plan. You plan on starting or maybe you do start the program, but then you miss a day here, then a week goes by, then you just forget about the whole idea. 

Why? Because your subconscious does not want you to change.

Change means leaving behind what you know and becoming something you don’t know.

Change means stepping out of your old familiar comfort zone and stepping into new uncharted territory.

Change means releasing the old version of you that operates on autopilot and creating a new version that must operate on an entirely different level 

So, no wonder your subconscious doesn’t want to change!

And there’s reasons for that too

• Change is scary,
  
• Change is the unknown.
  
• Change is the darkness that we can’t see into

Most, if not all, children are afraid of the dark. And most, if not all, people are operating from their subconscious child mind programming.

So if your buying programs and then not following through by actually using them, this is probably why.

Subconsciously, you are resisting change.
(btw – your subconscious is a lazy SOB, so there’s that too, lol)

So what can you do to overcome this dilemma?

Here’s 2 Ideas To Make Motivational Programs Work For You

1. Replace the word “change” to “TRANSFORM”
2. Stick with the program

By using the word “TRANSFORM” in your self development process, you take the pressure off of the idea of changing who you are.

You’re already good! You don’t need to “change”.

You now simply “TRANSFORMING” from who, where and how you are, to who, where and how you want to be.

Does a caterpillar “change” into a butterfly? Does it one day say to itself… 

“I think I need to better myself. I’m an ugly caterpillar. Butterflies are beautiful. I wish I could change into a butterfly.
HEY, I’VE GOT AN IDEA!
I’ll spend the next 30 days working real hard building a cocoon and maybe that’ll work”

No it doesn’t. 

The caterpillar is already a butterfly in caterpillar form. It knows it’s a butterfly. And easily and effortlessly, it then “TRANSFORMS” into a butterfly.

Why? Because the caterpillar simply trusts the process.

It knows that it simply needs to take action, follow the program and trust that the program works to get the desired result.

You operate the same way… If you simply trust the program you’ve chosen.

Your mind will create the results you desire so long as you use the solution in the instructed way AND continue to feed your mind daily!

Read and reread this over and over again.

Once you program your mind to take action and embrace transformation, motivational programs will work for you, guaranteed! 

Ok, that’s it for now.
Talk to you soon. 🙂

James “JimmyG” Graham, C.Ht. Founder of MPP
MindPowerPrograms.com

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