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Loads of research links meditation to positive outcomes—to little things like peace and happiness. But what about that outcome that, for better or worse, many prioritize above all—productivity?  

If it works for them…

Many attribute their productivity to meditation. Yuval Noah Harari, for instance, author of international bestseller Sapiens, attends a silent retreat each year, spending two months simply observing his thoughts. Without the focus this provides, he says, writing his books would not have been possible. For Oprah, meditation encourages a sense of stillness and a space to do her best work and live her best life.

How Meditation Boosts Productivity

That meditation can foster productivity is well supported by science. The possible mediating factors are many—from decreased stress and emotional reactivity, to increased self-control and energy—but let’s focus on three: improved decision making, attentional control, and problem solving.

Improved decision making

Researchers in Pennsylvania investigated whether meditation minimizes the sunk-cost bias—the tendency to continue with something just because money, time, or effort has already been invested. For example, you might eat more than you want as it’s already been prepared, stay in a bad relationship as you’ve been in it for years, or continue with a dead-end project because you’ve already begun. (Any sound familiar?)

The researchers allocated participants to a mindfulness condition or to a mind wandering condition, where they either focused on their breath (mindfulness) or thought about whatever came to mind (mind wandering).

Next, they had to make an important decision. They imagine they’re the CEO of a printing company that has just paid $200,000 for a new printing press. They learn a competitor has gone broke and is selling their printing press for just $10,000. It’s 50% faster and costs half as much to run. Should they buy it?

While 44% in the mind wandering condition said no, most (78%) in the mindfulness condition said yes, refusing to compromise the company’s future just because money had already been “sunk” into its crappy, old press.

Attentional control

Doing our best work requires that we stay focused. One measure of attentional control is the two-back task. For this task, people are presented with letters, one at a time, and are occasionally asked whether the one they’re currently viewing is the same as the one seen “two back”.

To examine whether mindfulness meditation enhances performance on this task, researchers had some individuals focus on their breath (mindfulness condition) and others listen to a Lord of the Rings audiobook (control condition). Not only did those in the mindfulness condition exhibit superior attentional control, but meditation also resulted in less fatigue and anxiety.

So if you find yourself prone to distraction, lethargy, or unease, taking a moment to attend to your breath could get you back on track.

Problem solving  

Einstein once said, “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” But how do we change our thinking? How do we prime ourselves to see the solutions to our problems?

Researchers in the Netherlands looked at whether creative problem solving could be enhanced by open-monitoring (OM) meditation, wherein the individual attends to any sensations or thoughts that arise. Specifically, the researchers asked if this could promote divergent thinking, defined as the generation of many ideas when more than one solution to a problem exists.

The Alternate Uses Task (AUT) was used to assess divergent thinking. For this task, people come up with as many possible uses for an object as they can. For instance, a brick might be used as a step, a paperweight, or a dumbbell.

After OM meditation, participants performed significantly better on the AUT. As well as coming up with more uses, their thinking was more flexible (the uses were more diverse) and original (the uses were more distinct from those proposed by others).

Where to begin?

If you’re interested in meditation, though lack time, note that many of the above benefits can be achieved with sessions as short as 5 minutes. And if the idea of attending to your breath just seems too boring, rest assured this is not the only way. In his classic book Wherever you go, there you are John Kabat-Zinn outlines a range of practices, from a walking-based meditation to picturing oneself as a mountain, surrounded by forests and meadows.

So, if improved decision making, focus, and problem solving sound good to you, why not give meditation a shot? It just might be the key to unlocking your potential.

Author biography

David Robinson completed BSc, MSc, and PhD degrees in psychology and neuroscience in London, England. He is a co-founder of UKFitness.Pro, the UK’s largest database of personal trainers.

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Originally Sourced From http://www.getmotivation.com/motivationblog/2019/08/happiness-is-yours-chris-widener/

Happiness. The pursuit of so many. In fact, we are known in America as those who live for “Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.” But so many seem without happiness. Why is this? Is happiness truly elusive or do we simply not know how to take hold of it? It is my contention that happiness is yours for the taking. That is, anyone can be happy if the choose to be… and if they know how to get it.

So what does it take to bring us to a state of happiness? Here are a few thoughts to get you on your way: Do not try to control circumstances. One of the biggest “happiness busters” I see is in the frustration people experience (and wallow in) because circumstances have gone awry.

This is because their mind-set, whether they know it or not, is that they should be somehow able to control circumstances. But let’s get this straight: You can’t! So the first thing you can do to give yourself happiness is to stop trying to control, or taking responsibility for circumstances that are outside of your control!

Understand that you can only control yourself. There is only one thing you can control in this world and that is yourself. You can’t control the weather, other drivers, your kids or spouse, or anything for that matter outside of your own beliefs, thoughts, attitudes and actions.

Focus all of your attention on developing yourself and doing what is right — controlling yourself while letting what will happen, happen — and you will find happiness opening up within you.

Decide what it is that you want out of life and then stick to it relentlessly. This is two parts: First, know what you want. Get real clear with yourself. Take a private retreat to be alone if you have to, but come to grips with what you want your life to look like. Secondly, devote yourself to that passion and do not be sidetracked. It is interesting to me how many options we have – good options – that if we pursue them they will actually crush our happiness because they will take us away from what will really make us happy.

Live for a legacy. We cannot be self-absorbed and live only for ourselves. Yes, we only control ourselves, but we can live for the betterment of others. Live your life in such a way that others are touched and you will find yourself feeling happiness in ways that you could never imagine. For example, I get some of the most touching emails from people I have never met (and probably never will) who tell me how I have helped them. There is little else that brings me such happiness!

Settle your finances. Whatever your financial goals are, get them! Having poor finances is one of the major causes of unhappiness. Now, some people are completely content on $30,000 a year. Others need $200,000 a year. That is okay. We all have different desires, needs, and goals. But the key is to know what you want your financial life to look like and then do what it takes to get there. Among the major things to do is to eliminate as much debt as possible, if not all!

Surround yourself with good friends. Good friend are such a blessing! I have some of the most intelligent, capable, successful, and caring friends a person could have. I have three or four people in my life that I completely trust and admire. When friendships are clicking, there is almost nothing that provides more happiness. Take time to develop your friendships. Spend time with them, do fun things with them etc. Even as life gets more and more busy, make time with your friends a priority.

Develop your primary love relationship. I spoke at a groom’s dinner recently and one of the points I made was that marriage will show you both heaven and hell! Marriage, when it is going well will send you out the door each morning on cloud nine. When it isn’t going well, it affects every area of your life negatively. Do whatever you can – work hard – at developing your primary love relationship. The rewards of happiness you reap will be tremendous!

Happiness is yours for the taking – and hope you will take the time to develop your life in such a way as to be able to experience all of the happiness you can handle!

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Chris Widener is a popular speaker and writer as well as the President of Made for Success, a company helping individuals and organizations turn their potential into performance, and succeed in every area of their lives and achieve their dreams. Learn more about the Ultimate Success Series By Chris Widener

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Originally Sourced From https://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/5-things-to-be-proud-of-when-fighting-depression/

I have heard depression described as an angry black shadow that follows you wherever you go — and this is a description I agree with wholeheartedly.

I mean, if you take a second to think about it, it just makes sense.

You are forever in its presence, constantly aware of it, but not often within its dark embrace. You feel it creeping away at the edge of your consciousness, but everytime you turn to look at it, it disappears into nothingness.

Then it suddenly engulfs you at the slightest provocation, and you are rendered completely and utterly incapitated. 

During these times it feels as if the world is ending. It feels as if no matter what you do in your lifetime, it will amount to nothing. That you are worthless, that you are alone, and that you will never escape.

But often this isn’t the case at all.

In fact, I would argue that you are capable of so much more than you think — all you have to do is take notice of what you are actually achieving every single day. There are a myriad of things you should be proud of when fighting off depression.

All you have to do is stand up and take notice.

1.   Getting up and facing the day

When the black shadow strikes, even the smallest task can feel like a giant challenge — and to be honest, it is.

But even still, you get up out of bed and face the day.

You slowly creep out of the covers, despite every fibre of your being telling you not to. Putting one foot in front of the other, you drag yourself into the kitchen, take a mug out of the cupboard, and make yourself a coffee.

Some days you will leave the house, and others you will not — it doesn’t matter.

Simply getting out of bed to face the day shows a level of strength and resilience that most people will never understand. You are literally standing up and laughing in the face of your demons.

This is tough to do, and you should be proud of every single time you do it.

2.   Seeking help

Over the last few years we have seen the stigma surrounding depression change for the better. It is no longer swept under the rug and ignored, but spoken about openly, and acknowledged as the serious condition it is.

However, for whatever reason, those of us suffering from depression tend to have a hard time seeking help. We seem to think that it is a sign of weakness. Or that by speaking out, we will be perceived as attention seeking — or even worse, a burden.

But in my experience, this is never the case at all. Which is why challenging your fears (even unfounded as they are) and seeking help is something that you should do. And more importantly, it is something that you should be proud of doing.

3.   Moving your body

Did you know that there is a direct link between your physical health and your mental health? Well there is. More importantly, there is also a heap of evidence to suggest that if you exercise and move your body, it can actually help treat your depression.

Crazy, right?

But, there is a caveat here — it is a whole lot easier said than done.

You already know just how incredibly hard it can be to get out of bed and face the day. And to actually get outside and exercise?

Well, there are times when it can literally seem impossible.

Which is why you should applaud yourself for getting out and moving your body at every opportunity. Even stepping outside and going for a brisk walk can make a world of difference — so make sure you pat yourself on the back when you do.

4.   Fuelling your body (with the right foods)

When you are in the depths of a depressive bout, comfort foods tend to take priority. Simple snack foods that are easy to consume, taste sweet, and require zero effort to prepare.

However, did you know that these foods can actually make your mental health worse?

I know, it is scary — but that doesn’t make it any less true.

Which is why when you take the time to prepare yourself some decent food (you know, that includes something that grows in the ground), you should be very happy with your effort. Not only is it hard, but it is good for you.

So make sure you act like it.

5.   Accomplishing a task

Our lives are filled with small tasks that need to be completed on a daily basis. Things like washing the dishes, doing your bed, hanging out the laundry, or feeding the dog. Little tasks that seem menial at first glance, but are actually integral to our survival, and often the survival of others.

During the bad times, these tasks can seem like a monsterous challenge. And as a result, they should be treated like one.

Every time you achieve a task (no matter how small it may first appear), be proud of the fact that you are taking a positive step towards better health. That you are staring a monster right in the face, and then choosing to slay it.

How to Best Handle Your Depression?

During these bouts of darkness, it can feel like there is no escape. But it is always important to remember that there is!

While being proud of your daily accomplishments is certainly a step in the right direction, it is just that: a single step. With this in mind, it is important that you build on this first step and continue to handle your depression to the best of your ability.

And fortunately, there are a number of things that can help.

Talk Therapy

Talk therapy (also known as psychotherapy, or cognitive behavioral therapy) is a tool that you can use to educate yourself about depression. In doing so, it helps you find ways to manage your individual symptoms.

In this manner, talk therapy is a powerful mental health strategy that teaches you how to change your thoughts and behaviours.

See, depression often develops through an uncontrollable change in mindset. This mindset forces you into a negative feedback loop, where you begin to develop an extremely negative outlook on normal everyday situations.

But talk therapy teaches you how to replace these with a positive mindset, positive behaviours, and effective coping strategies. By doing so, it can cause some improvements in your mental health.

 Light Therapy

Did you know that there is actually a scientific basis as to why people tend to get down in the winter?

See, light from the sun stimulates your body, causing a number ‘feel-good’ hormones to be produced and secreted. As I am sure you could have guessed, these hormones improve your mood and increase your sense of wellbeing.

However, often getting enough sunlight is much easier said than done — which is exactly why I like using light therapy.

This unique mode of treatment gets you standing near a little machine known as a ‘light therapy box’ for 30-60 minutes per day. In short, this box emits a light that is exactly the same wavelength as sunlight, in which it causes an increase in the secretion of these same happy hormones.

As a result, light therapy has been shown to act as a powerful depression treatment.

Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT)

ECT is a powerful treatment that is often used to help cases of depression where other treatment methods have failed.

Now, before I dive into the nitty gritty details, it is important to note that ECT is typically performed in an operating theatre. The reason for this is actually quite clear — see, ECT it is performed under general anaesthesia, which means you are knocked out cold before treatment starts.

Then, once you are fully asleep and in a state of complete relaxation, a doctor will give an electrical stimulus to your brain (lasting around five seconds). This shock will induce a small seizure, which lasts about a minute.

As terrifying as this may sound, this seizure is important, as it acts to reset your brain. Through this process, ECT has been used to successfully help people with treatment resistant depression, whom haven’t responded to traditional medications.

Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS)

Keeping with the ‘brain shocks’ theme, we will move onto ‘transcranial magnetic stimulation’ (or TMS for short). TMS is a relatively new mental health treatment that uses magnetic fields to treat depression. It may sound similar to ECT, but there are quite a few major differences when we compare TMS to ECT.

In short, during a TMS session, an electromagnetic pad is placed on your forehead. It is then turned on, in which it starts to send small magnetic pulses directly into your skull. These pulses stimulate the nerve cells in your brain that control your mood and emotions.

This not only leads to lasting improvements in mood, but has also been shown to help treat some more serious cases of depression.

Improve your diet

It should come as no surprise that every single thing you choose to put into your body impacts its your health and function. To put it simply, if you choose to eat a high-quality diet full of nutrient rich foods, then it will function effectively.

Conversely, if you eat nothing but junk, then it will function like junk.

See, there is a very obvious reason as to why a diet rich in junk food has all been linked to an increased risk of depression. Because they literally fill your body with inflammatory compounds that interact with your brain in a negative manner.

So make sure to steer clear of them when possible.

More importantly, you should also make a conscious effort to eat a diet full of whole grains, beans, eggs, cheese, yoghurt, green leafy vegetables, fish, poultry, and red meat. In doing so you will actually put your body in the perfect place to start fighting depression.

I guess there is some truth to the saying ‘you are what you eat’.

Take Home Point

Escaping the black shadow of depression is no easy feat, but using the above strategies, it is very possible. More importantly, by making sure that you acknowledge your daily achievements, battling your inner demons will become easier by the day.

So be proud of your efforts, no matter how small they may first seem — because they are the first step to unlocking your mental health for good.

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Dr. Lindsay Israel is a board-certified psychiatrist. Her goal is to help patients feel empowered because their symptoms can leave them feeling powerless. She specializes in Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS) therapy for the treatment of various psychiatric disorders. TMS is FDA-approved for depression and is a non-invasive, non-medication alternative to traditional treatments. Dr. Israel’s depression treatment center, Success TMS, focuses on this advanced therapy which allows patients to achieve remission from depression and return back to their best lives.”

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Originally Sourced From https://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/10-ways-to-develop-resilience-in-sobriety/

Sobriety is a concept that is sometimes misunderstood, and once misunderstood, the approach towards sobriety can be wrongly applied. For some recovering addicts, sobriety translates to a phase of misery, rather than as a time to improve oneself physically and mentally. Despite having been to rehab, such persons might still find themselves withdrawing from their emotions. They become ‘resilient’ and barely receptive to people and things around them.

They would engage in social interactions, but their outward appearance is mostly a façade, within, their feelings are mostly bottled up. While such behaviors could be interpreted as a coping mechanism during sobriety, it doesn’t make up for the resilience needed to stay sober in the long run.

Adopting such a problematic approach in your journey to recovery won’t help your cause. Instead, it is more likely to expose you to adversities and stressors that could tear down the fort you have built against addiction.

Sobriety is a time to reconcile with life and the positivity therein. It is a time to truly embrace your affections and make yourself emotionally available, hence, boosting your progress during recovery. More so, it is an opportunity to develop a strong will to achieve your goals.

How does resilience relate to sobriety?

Addiction is a strong disease, and fighting it off requires a lot of will and determination – it requires resilience. In reference to addiction recovery, resilience is an individual’s ability to adapt a healthy lifestyle and stay true to their recovery against all the odds. It is part of the emotional wellness strategies which a recovering addict can learn during Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) in all-encompassing drug rehab.

How can I develop resilience in sobriety?

According to psychological studies, there are three applicable characteristics a sober person should possess if they want to be resilient in their recovery.¹ To help you in your journey to recovery, we discussed those characteristics (as the first three) alongside others below.

1.     Accept reality

Acceptance is the first step to being resilient. You have to understand and accept that change is constant and get accustomed to the current reality. Now, your truth is to break free from addiction and be sober. To achieve this, you have to make sacrifices and drop some old habits as you embrace and practice the terms of a healthy lifestyle. By accepting the reality, you would consciously and subconsciously put in your energy to adapt to every bit of it, thus developing resilience in the process.

2.     Believe in the cause

You can’t fight for what you don’t believe in. If you think of sobriety as an insignificant means to healthy living, then it would be hard for you to live by its values. By believing in and upholding the values of sobriety and healthy living, you will be able to make conscious efforts to be true to the cause at all times. Through your belief, you can face whatever stressors and triggers that may come your way squarely.

3.     Be able and willing to improvise

One of the quickest ways people fall back into addiction is by letting themselves get stunned by the challenges they come across. If you truly accept the realities of being sober, you should also recognize the uncertainties you might face along the way.

Make a mental note not to let yourself be overwhelmed or give in to emotions or triggers that can push you to indulge. However, you should prepare yourself to maneuver such instances by any means possible, without incurring any detriments on yourself or others.

4.     Do not be afraid to take actions

Even while you might have improvised a means to tackle a stressor that poses a threat to your sobriety, there are chances that you won’t implement it. Some triggers will come in scenarios that would make you second-guess your approach to sobriety. For instance, when the friends you usually go binge-drinking with keep calling you to join them for some drinks.

You shouldn’t be afraid to say no to such offers, especially if it puts you at risk of a relapse.

5.     Become more tolerant

You have to become more tolerant of pains or discomfort that might come your way if it inches you closer to recovery. These pains and distresses could be in the form of withdrawal symptoms, but yielding to them because they are unbearable can ruin all the efforts you have made to stay sober.

6.     Create sobriety milestones

This is one approach that has consistently helped recovering addicts to stay sober. Having a goal in sight will boost your resilience in sobriety, and help you stick to achieving your goals. For every stressor you encounter, you think of the goal ahead and ward it off.

7.     Appreciate your progress

As humans, we all tend to protect or fight for what we appreciate. You should learn to recognize and celebrate every progress you make in sobriety, even the minutest ones. By doing so, you create a formidable fort that keeps you from backtracking.

Celebrating your progress at every point will serve as a future reminder not to ruin your efforts to be sober. Consequently, it helps prop your resilience in sobriety.

8.     Do not dwell in the past

Regret is not one of the ingredients of resilience. Fixating on your past mistakes will cause a lag on the progress you are trying to make. Such unnecessary fixations are likely to make you feel horrible, thus reducing your belief in yourself and what you are doing presently. Once the confidence and trust are gone, the resilience in sobriety can be likened to the waning light of a candle, a little breeze, and it would go off.

9.     Get family and friends involved

Sobriety is not a journey for you alone; the people around you also have a role to play. Despite the likelihood of wanting to handle things by yourself, you should also accept support from people you love. It would accord you a sense of belonging, and the will to not give up on sobriety.

10.  Sign up for a sober living program

For the things you can’t learn by yourself, you can opt to learn from specialists. By choosing a sober living program or virtual counseling (considering the pandemic), you will get to learn, understand, and value the tenets of sobriety. Moreover, you can choose from a variety of therapy and counseling options, which are designed to help recovering addicts develop unwavering resilience while sober.

References:

1. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/ending-addiction-good/201501/recovery-and-resilience-connection

Emily is a health and wellness writer who enjoys the simple things in life. She has written articles for sites like Briarwood Detox and continues to spread education and awareness with her work.  

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The way we express love and receive it differs from person to person, because of a concept known as love languages.

Sometimes, in spite of our best intentions, we struggle to make our partners feel loved. Gestures that would touch us fall flat with them, and we end up feeling unappreciated while they feel misunderstood.

Meanwhile, the reverse also occurs – you might find yourself telling your partner that you don’t feel cared for, and they might reveal that they’ve been trying really hard to show their love.

The two of you have simply been talking at cross purposes.

This is where the concept of love languages comes in. Originating in the work of therapist Gary Chapman, love languages help us understand what we need in order to be happy in a relationship.

They are the way that we express love and perceive love. But what exactly are the five love languages? And once you know your partner’s, how can you use it to improve intimacy and communication? This article to love languages will help you get started.

What Is My Love Language?

Before you start thinking about love languages, it’s important to note that people tend to give love the way in which they prefer to receive it.

So, once you know your own love language, you’ll be better able to tell others what you need.

You might be wondering “Can a person have more than one love language? How many love languages can a person have?”.

The answer is that most people have a dominant love language.

However, some people tie between two love languages or get very similar scores for several.

A good idea is to reflect on a time where you truly felt loved by someone, what did they do?

Doing this might reveal and be a good indication of what your dominant love language is.

Now, let’s take a closer look at the differences between the five love languages.

The 5 Love Languages

So, what are the 5 languages? They are as follows:

• Words of affirmation
• Receiving gifts
• Acts of service
• Quality time
• Physical touch

You might already have an intuitive sense about what these mean and which one applies to you, but it’s worth carefully exploring all five before making a final call about your love language.

Words Of Affirmation Love Language

If your love language is words of affirmation, you feel most cared for when someone verbalizes their feelings and tells you what they appreciate about you.

You’re sensitive to whether such compliments are genuine, and you feel good about yourself (and your partner) when affirming words seem heartfelt.

You need to hear your value stated outright, and without positive affirmations for love you will feel under-appreciated.

It’s likely that you also tend to express your own love in words, but someone with a different love language may not give these words as much weight.

If you’re confident that your partner’s love language is words of affirmation but you’re not sure how to speak to them in this language, one helpful exercise involves writing down 10-20 things you like and enjoy about them.

This can range from their innate traits to things they do for you, the way they make you feel, and special memories that you like you to reflect on.

Generally, a sentence that takes the form “I love it when you do ____ – that’s so thoughtful” will land well with this person. However, it’s hard to go wrong – just speak from the heart about what you love.

Examples Of Words Of Affirmation

• Well done/I am proud of you.
• I’m here for you.
• Thank you for looking after me.
• I regret/I’m sorry for…
• I love you, need you, want you.
• You mean the world to me/You are the love of my life.
• I don’t know what I’d do without you.
• You’re doing great—don’t give up/I believe in you.
• I know how tough things have been lately.
• I feel blessed to have you in my life/You are my best friend.

Acts Of Service Love Language

If your love language is acts of service, you’re much more about “doing” than “saying”.

You feel like your partner really loves you when they do chores for you, help to organize events or fix broken things. In other words, you feel valued when the other person takes away some burden or stress from your life.

This might involve taking over more than their fair share of parenting duties, completing a task you’ve been dreading, or ensuring that everything in the house works well.

People with this love language often think that anyone can say complimentary or flattering things.
Showing that you’re willing to work hard to help someone is what proves that there’s a foundation of love.

If you don’t value acts of service to this extent but think that this might be your partner’s love language, pay close attention to the daily things that make them unhappy or anxious.

What could you take over? How could you help them relax and have more time for themselves?

The more acts of kindness you perform to make their life easier, the more loved they are likely to feel.

Examples Of Acts Of Service

• Prepare dinner or help in the kitchen.
• Doing chores.
• Make tea/coffee in the morning.
• Amend something broken.
• Ask – “can I help you?”
• Plan a date.
• Ask if they need anything or if they want something specific when getting up.
• Help with something without being asked.
• Pick up their favorite snack from the store.
• Cover the bills.

Quality Time Love Language

For those with a quality of time love language, the emphasis is on ensuring that loved ones schedule meaningful time together.

If this is your love language, you’ll feel cared for when your partner makes time to go on dates with you, enjoys planning day trips and holidays, and gets excited about trying new things with you. In contrast, if you only see your partner briefly (for example, at the end of the workday), you’ll begin to feel taken for granted and like something is lacking in your relationship.

If quality time is your partner’s love language and yet it doesn’t rank so highly for you, you might find it hard to see why it matters so much.

For example, you might compliment them every day, and feel perplexed by why they aren’t happy.

Direct communication helps to meet the needs of someone with the quality time love language – in other words, simply ask your partner what they’d like to do with you, and devote your energy to brainstorming a list with them.

Often, just carving out specific time for the person also goes a long way toward making them feel loved – think of a weekly date night, for example.

Examples Of Quality Time

• Cook or bake together.
• Go for a walk.
• Stay away from digital devices when spending time together.
• Play card/board games.
• Plan an overnight or day trip together.
• A night in with movies and cuddles.
• Work out together.
• Engage in quality conversations.
• Play 20 questions to keep getting to know one another.
• Be childish together (eat cereal on the floor, sing out loud, dance to your favorite songs).

Receiving Gifts Love Language

As the name suggests, the love language of giving gifts places an emphasis on receiving things from your partner.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that you value expensive items – you may be just as happy (or even happier) with small tokens of affection, or handmade things.

Someone who doesn’t care much about wealth can still have a love language of gift gifting.

The point is just that you like to receive tokens of affection, and you view such gifts as a marker of the other person’s care for you.

In your eyes, items are more representative of your partner’s love than, for example, compliments, or time spent together.

If you’re with someone whose love language is gift giving, one thing to keep in mind is these gifts are about showing love, not about buying it or buying forgiveness after a fight.

Think about your timing, your intention, and how to make the gift a surprise (if your partner likes surprises!). In addition, note that the gifts you give don’t have to be material objects.

They can also be trips, experiences, and classes.

Notice what your partner feels passionate about, and try to tailor your gifts to these passions.

Examples Of Receiving Gifts

• Buy flowers for no reason.
• Get them something they wanted for a while.
• Sign them up for a class they are interested in.
• Make a little hamper of things using their favorite color/theme.
• Make hand made gifts.
• Plan an experience out of the ordinary (Trampolining, Hicking, beach day).
• “It made me think of you” gift.
• “I was thinking of you” gift when going away.
• Frame a photo of the two of you together.

Physical Touch Love Language

The final love language is physical touch, which can manifest in a range of different ways. Some people with this love language like to sit close together most of the time, holding hands or snuggled into each other.

Meanwhile, others are more focused on communicating and experiencing love through sex, or focus on needing an embrace when saying hello or goodbye.

What unifies all people with this love language is feeling most cared for and most secure when in some kind of physical contact with their partner.

If you’re not a person who values physical touch as much, you may need to remind yourself that your partner does need this.

Setting a goal of giving them a specific number or hugs or kisses through the day can help, as can developing a ritual where (say) you kiss them each time you come home.

And if you genuinely don’t enjoy being that physically close, find ways to compromise – for example, if you can’t get comfortable with someone wrapped around you in bed, holding hands or resting your feet against each other may play just the same comforting role for your partner.

Examples Of Physical Touch

• Massages/Rubs.
• Embracing regularly (Goodbye and hello hugs).
• Arm around the shoulder, waist or hand-holding while walking.
• Small body contact like your hand on their leg when sitting down to watch something.
• A surprise hug from behind while your partner is cooking.
• Tickling your partner.
• Holding your partner when they feel negative emotions.
• Stroking and combing through partners hair.
• Gentle stroke on face/cheeks.
• A small kiss on the hand, cheeks, shoulder, forehead, etc.

Can You Be With Someone With A Different Love Language?

Now, reading through the above love languages you’ll have noticed some significant differences in how each type of person expresses and experiences love.

As a result, you might be worried about whether two people with different love languages can ever have a successful and happy relationship.

The good news is that many – if not most – people end up with a partner who doesn’t speak the same love language. So how does this work?

The key is open, honest communication and a consistent willingness to make adjustments.

Firstly, it’s important to discuss your love languages.

Explain to each other how you relate to the concept of love, and what kinds of things make you feel good. Be willing to give examples, rather than expecting your partner to read your mind.

Secondly, acknowledge that some compromise will always be needed.

The person who loves compliments but doesn’t like spending money may need to work to accept that gifts are what keep their partner happy.

Meanwhile, the person who would prefer to cuddle on the sofa than to talk about their feelings may need to develop a more refined set of communication skills to promote a sense of security in their partner.

If you are currently having some problems in your existing relationship, understanding your partners’ love language is starting to make your partner feel loved.

There is no reason why you can’t fall in love again and awaken the spark.

Use The Love Language Chart And Show Your Partner How Loved They Are

Now that you know more about love languages, why not use this illustrative chart to learn more about how to talk to your partner, how to make them feel cared for and what to avoid? Everyone is subtly different, but love languages provide you with a helpful roadmap to understanding what makes your partner tick.

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Have you ever been inspired to reach a goal of some sort and ended up letting it all go before even starting? Have you ever wondered what would it mean to reach any goal in your life?

Inside your heart, you get very excited about doing whatever it is you plan. And then your brain starts processing all the energy, devotion, effort, and time needed to actually reach this goal, that is when you give up and leave it all behind.

Personally, I have always wanted to dance the tango like a pro. I lived in Buenos Aires and I saw the couples dancing and they looked so smooth and focused. It felt like they became one among themselves and fused with the music. It is a very sensual dance. I was picturing myself dancing, and the next thing I knew I was already signing up for the dancing classes.

But the class was too far from my house and I was very busy during that part of my life. I could not go to every class and, gradually, my skills were very behind the rest of the class. That, in turn, made me regret going there, come up with excuses not to go even on the few nights that I was free, and in the end, I gave up on the classes that were already paid for.

I didn’t even bother to ask for a refund for the remaining classes because I felt so disappointed with myself. And here is why I am sharing this with you.

Chances are you have gone through a similar situation in your life – with exercises, a diet, learning a foreign language. It was a goal that you wanted to achieve, and you gave up before getting seriously committed.

How can you overcome that? Well, here is how to achieve any goal in your life in 3 simple steps.

1. Find Your Motivation Behind Your Dream

The first thing you need to understand is why you want to do this. This will be a powerful force to keep you motivated. Often, we have big dreams that end up being someone else’s goals and dreams. Other times it is something that we heard about and sounded really good or cool. And other times it’s simply something that everyone else is doing – and not a single person knows why.

For example, you could think that having a public job and a safe retirement is a great thing. However, deep inside, what you really want is to become an entrepreneur, take risks, and be your own boss. In that case, you will live a dreadful life, killing yourself a little bit, every single day.

This is why finding your own motivation is such a powerful driving force. This is the strength that will make you persevere and find the energy to go the extra mile. Adversity and obstacles will become an inspiration to extract the best of you and keep moving forward. And moving towards your own goals will be easier than anything else you have ever done in your life.

2. Focus On What You Can Do Now

Consciously living on the present and focusing on what is within your reach to change and mold ensures you can keep moving forward, regardless of your current conditions and restrictions. That is much more productive than just thinking about the future and doing nothing to change your present. Some people call it mindfulness.

For example, if you have a goal to become fit, push yourself harder during your next workout. And consciously focus on one workout at a time, instead of thinking that you still need so many months or years of hard work. Focus on running further, adding repeats, or lifting more NOW.

If you have a goal at work, then make 10 extra sales calls, reach 10 old customers and ask them why they stopped buying from your company, stop procrastinating and start that project today, and so on.

The simple fact is that focusing on today and start acting towards it immediately will put you on the right road towards success.

3. Split A Bigger Goal Into Smaller Steps

Every journey starts with the first step. You have to start somewhere and climb the ladder. Since you know where you want to go, it becomes much easier to trace smaller actions that you have to perform in order to reach your goal.

You can avoid sabotaging yourself by switching the logic. Instead of failing on a large goal, you can succeed in completing a series of smaller tasks that will take you increasingly closer to your dream life. It is much easier to write 2,000 words daily than writing an entire novel.

Closing Thoughts

So these are the steps I follow to achieve any goal in my life. I would love to know about the strategy you follow to gain success in your life.

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While looking at a manifestation quote, you will start to see that boosting your manifesting ability always starts with a very strong attitude and growth mindset.

Have you ever struggled with getting what you want from life? Have you had difficulty manifesting your own power? You’re not alone. It’s not because you don’t have the capability.

Often we think it’s because we’re lazy or unmotivated. This is untrue. Most people are hard workers but don’t know quite how to focus their manifestation power.

You can have everything that you want in life if you get clear and organized. Greatness is not something that we are born with. Aristotle said it best when he said: “We are what we repeatedly do.” Therefore, what this means is that excellence is not a single event, but a daily routine.

Allow these quotes on manifesting and their explanations to understand and increase your manifestation power today.

Manifestation Quote #1

”Tomorrow is the day the Universe will deliver an amazing blessing to you. Get ready. Your manifestation will be a success.”

Most people confuse the Law Of Attraction and the power of manifestation when it comes to quotes on manifesting. The Law Of Attraction isn’t a magic lamp whereas you rub, and a genie comes out – Then proceeds to give you exactly what you want! Get rid of any mystic understanding you have of The Law Of Attraction.

It’s not about instant gratification. Creating and learning how to manifest more effectively. When you set your mind to your daily tasks, you will achieve your goals in due time.

It’s cause and effect. For example, if we want to manifest more money into our lives, we do things like start a business.

After many months or perhaps years, the money will flow in. The cause is wanting more money, and the effect (later on) is getting more money. But first, you must ask the universe for it.

Manifestation Quote #2

“Shout to the Universe, “All good things come to me”. Watch your manifestations become your reality.”

We have to get excited about the things we want in our lives! They should fill you up and make you so happy that you want to raise your hands to the sky and shout out loud!

If you’ve ever fallen in love, then you know this feeling. It feels like floating on a cloud. If you want to turn up your vibration, start by using the power of affirmations.

Affirm it in your mind, body, and in your spirituality. Then let the thought verbally come out of you. Tell yourself every day. Tell your friends. Then tell your family.

When you do this, you increase the energy output of your manifestations.

Manifestation Quote #3

“Stop waiting for somebody to elevate your game. You are already equipped with everything you need to manifest your own greatness.” – Germanyy kent

It’s time to realize that we, and only we, will create our successes and failures. We must take complete control of our reality – Whether we think we are, or not responsible for our life.

We are the creators of our universe. Every day we have a choice. These choices make up the sum of our life.

We have to elevate our game, our mind, and harness our abundant power.

Quotes about manifesting and manifesting in general greatness starts with 1) Believing in yourself 2) Putting your mind to a task, and 3) Taking action. Now, go out and show the world!

Manifestation Quote #4

“Surround and make friends with the people who force you to level up. Those are the friends who will pick you up whenever you vibrate low. Those are the friends who will show you optimism, motivation, and strength when you need it the most. Surround yourself with people who actively manifest the things they want. They are the evidence that you can do it too!”

As positive and powerful as we all are, it helps to surround ourselves with more positive people to develop a positive energy.

Ever heard the quote that “you’re the average of the five people that you spend the most time with”? It’s very true and important. Motivation comes in many forms.

As we strive for more for ourselves, we can do the heavy lifting. However, it’s always nice to have some help.

So, if you have constant negative energy surrounding you, it must be removed at all costs, even if it’s a close friend or family member. It’s your one life to live. Choose wisely.

Manifestation Quote #5

“Expect to manifest everything that you want to manifest.”

Choosing to expect something is the first step in manifestation. You’ve armed your subconscious mind with an aim and a goal. You hold it in your mind.

The more you see it in your head, you will believe it, and it will reveal itself in physical form. Repetition is the mother of skill, so repeat it daily what you’re manifesting.

When you will the full power of your energy into belief, you believe it on such a deep level that it now becomes an expectation, rather than a pipe dream.

Expect to manifest everything, and you will.

Manifestation Quote #6

“Attitude is the little thing that can make a huge impact in every single area in your life.
When your attitude is right, you will thrive and flourish. The universe feels your attitude and you will manifest whatever your attitude reflects. So let your attitude be electric!”

Attitude comes from thought. From attitude comes power. With power comes action. From action comes success.

Thought and attitude are the basis for everything in our daily lives. Therefore, we must put emphasis on electrifying our thoughts as much as possible!

The universe will feel your energy and decide whether or not to give you what you long for. We need to think of our thoughts like a mirror. Are your thoughts reflecting your reality?

If they aren’t, perhaps you need to put more thought and effort into your manifesting abilities. Think of it like building muscle.

Without consistent action, nothing will grow.

Manifestation Quote #7

“Declare that from this point on you will be in better situations. Situations that leave you excited and breathless with gratitude and abundance. You will vibrate in a frequency so high that all the goodness will come shooting into your magnetic field. You have the power to declare and manifest anything into existence so stand in your power and do so.”

Quotes on manifesting like this one show’s us that when we choose to live in gratitude and abundance, our energy immediately shifts. So many people try to magically manifest happiness, and they fail.

Happiness does not create gratitude. Gratitude creates happiness. It is your foundation for all that you want. It’s inevitable that you will have to overcome obstacles, so you must be strong and humble.

If things don’t work out for you, or you don’t get what you want, you learn to appreciate more of what you already have. Therefore, you remain grounded and appreciative.

When you finally achieve something major, it’s great, but it’s also no big deal – Cause you’re already happy and grateful!

Manifestation Quote #8

“Manifest what you want into existence by opening up to the Universe. Let it be known!”

When we learn to open up to the universe, the universe replies by rewarding us. The universe is a provider. The universe gives us all the tools we need to make life amazing.

Respect it’s wondrous and magnificent power, and use it to your ability. Let it be known to the world what you want!

Ask for it. Embrace it, and don’t let go. We are so lucky to be alive. Put your intentions and manifestations into the universe. Be loud with your life!

Trust the universe, and you will be rewarded in more ways than you could’ve ever imagined.

Manifestation Quote #9

“Start preparing for whatever you are manifesting because it is coming. To prepare for it makes the universe quicken its pace. For how can you be ready before the universe is ready? The universe will play catch up. The pace in which you manifest will quicken.”

People don’t realize how surprisingly easy it is to achieve the things that you want from your life. In order to prepare for it, we need to plan for it.

Before we plan it, we need the thought and intention to be there. If you’re ready to ignite your potential, start thinking about it, and then take swift action!

Prepare your internal universe for what’s to come in the external universe. The universe will provide it so long as you will it to. The quicker the pace, the quicker the outcome.

You can will your energy field to such an extent that the universe will have to bend with you.

Manifestation Quote #10

“It’s not the words of your intentions that manifest your reality, it’s the vibration of the energy of your intentions that attracts.”

Words mean nothing. Action is everything. Don’t just talk about what you want. Only talking about what you want makes you a dreamer.

When things get really interesting is when you start taking the steps towards your dreams, and you slowly start to realize “hey, I can do this.”

A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. So, take the first step into your new future. Take a look around, and see what greatness awaits for you on the other side.

Use that excitement and energy to propel you forward! Raise your vibration.

Manifestation Quote #11

“A key to manifestation is that when the doors of opportunity open, you have to walk through them”

Success happens when preparation meets opportunity. However, success will only happen when we finally decide to believe in ourselves enough to keep going all the way.

We work so hard to get what we want, so why not follow all the way through completely? Opportunities come in so many forms.

Sometimes we fail to see the signs or see the significance of opportunity. Sometimes we don’t believe in ourselves enough to take an opportunity handed to us on a silver platter. I

f you have the confidence and the will to push yourself to achieve success, you must walk the entire journey.

Manifestation Quote #12

“If you have a positive frame of mind, you can manifest positive things in your life.”

Quotes about manifesting like this one are the essence of The Law Of Attraction. Your mind is like a magnet. We attract what we magnify in our minds. Thoughts become things, events, and circumstances.

If your mind is the magnet for The Law Of Attraction, then manifestation begins at the microscopic level of where thought begins.

When we’re born, our brain isn’t hardwired to filter in all the good or bad thoughts in a day. Our brain has been hardwired for centuries for fight or flight.

So, we must reprogram our brains for positivity. Then, you will be, absorb, and attract positive things into your life.

Manifestation Quote #13

“Your whole life is a manifestation of the thoughts that go on in your head” – Lisa Nichols

The greatest thinkers in history have said this in one form or another. From Buddha to Aristotle – Marcus Arelius to Gandhi, and Albert Einstein.

The quality of our lives comes from the quality of our thoughts. Life is very simple when you think of it this way.

Every day, every moment, every second, we are determining our reality. We have the power. We have control.

When we learn to harness the power of our minds, we become unstoppable. Some people know this and have trained their minds for it.

Their mind is so powerful that achieving happiness, greatness, and success comes easy.

Manifestation Quote #14

“You can have many great ideas in your head, but what makes the difference is the action. Without action upon an idea, there will be no manifestation, no results, and no reward” – Don Miguel Ruiz

As much as we’ve seen about the power of manifestation and using our mind to harness our internal power, none of it matters without action.

Many people have great thoughts. Many people have great intentions. Yet, most people don’t manifest what they want.

Why? This is where action comes in. The whole point of us focusing our mind is to bring things that we want into our lives. Without action, we’re just positive thinkers.

If your mind is the car, then the action is gasoline. Neither gets you where you want to go on their own. So, empower your mind, and take empowered action towards your life, then you will reap the rewards.

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